Parenting with Values

12 Essential Qualities Your Children Need and How to Teach Them

Christiane Kutik; Translated by Matthew Barton


Quick Look

  • An inspiring book which suggests that strong values are what children need most to help them find their way in life
  • Each of the twelve vital values are discussed in easy-to-digest chapters with lots of practical examples to explain how each is learned or passed on from parent to child
  • Values explored include self-esteem, compassion, honesty, respect, sensibility and humour

Tells us that there are twelve essential values that will help children become happy, well-balanced and resilient people. Discusses each quality with lots of practical examples to explain how each one is learned or passed on from parent to child.

Floris Books
Parenting & Child Health
128 pages
Publication date:
29 Mar 2018


What do we, as parents, need to give our children to ensure they grow up to be happy, well-balanced and resilient people?

Parenting tutor and mother of two Christiane Kutik tells us that, above all, children need their parents to give them strong values to help them find their way in life.

Many of us consider values to be an old-fashioned concept but Kutik suggests that by fostering twelve vital values, parents can provide their children with all the tools they need to flourish, to discover the worth of non-material rewards and to have an emotionally enriching life.

Parenting with Values encourages parents to reflect on which values they want to pass on to their children. In twelve short, easy-to-digest chapters, Kutik discusses the essential qualities that children need, and explains how each one is learned and passed on from parent to child.

The twelve essential values Kutik identifies are:
-- Self-esteem
-- Compassion
-- Honesty
-- Respect
-- Sensibility
-- Humour
-- Security
-- Capacity to manage conflict
-- Independence
-- Interest the world
-- Soulfulness
-- Connection the natural world

This engaging and readable book is filled with practical everyday examples of values in action. It will provide inspiration for parents who wish to proactively encourage positive development in their children.

Table of Contents

Foreword 7
Introduction: Helping the Heart to Grow 11
Security 17
Self-Respect 27
Empathy 37
Capacity to Tolerate Frustration 47
Independence 57
Gratitude 65
Truthfulness 73
Interest in the World 79
A Well-Nourished Soul 87
A Sense of Beauty 95
Connection with Nature 101
Humour and Light-Heartedness 109
Notes and References 115
Index 117


'This is a brilliant book... The book provides us with the opportunity to reflect and consider how to free ourselves from some of the stresses of parenting by renewing these twelve qualities within ourselves and modelling them for our children. Parenting with Values is a worthwhile journey to take for -- for grandparents and carers too!'
-- New View

'These are short, easy to digest chapters filled with everyday examples of values in action. Inspiring!'
-- Kindling

'This might sound like something from a Supernanny-styled television show, or a proselytizing tome about zen-like parents who do not really exist in normal life, but rest assured, it is an extremely level-headed and warm hearted book that offers a great deal to stressed parents and families... This book is short enough to be an easy read, but powerful enough to give you an insight into the parents of the children in your setting and ways that you might be able to help when it comes to essential values, such as empathy, independence, truthfulness, self-respect, and more.'
-- EYE Magazine

'This very easy-to-read book highlights the importance of values... I very much like the idea of values-based parenting, and I found this book a helpful way to gently remind me where to refocus... The many anecdotes throughout the book help bring the theory into reality and show how values can be a place of strength for parents.'
-- Juno Magazine


Christiane Kutik is a mother of two, an interior designer, teacher and parenting consultant. She is a director at the IPSUM Institute in Munich, which trains parental advisors in early-years childcare. She gives lectures and seminars on practical issues relating to daily childcare and family life. She is the author of Stress-Free Parenting in 12 Steps.

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